The twenty-first century does not seem to be an era of patience. We pull on the grass to make it grow faster instead of letting nature take its course.
In a hurry to see the result, we forget to enjoy the rich pathway of learning. We make do with results acquired by pressure, which may be good but are rarely excellent.
Michelangelo didn’t keep an eye on his watch to finish his works of art on time.
Should we look at the screen quietly until a fascinating idea appears?
Seek for the adverb that will exactly suit the statement we are writing?
What if we made a real effort to enjoy the process?
Would you like to sing the praises of slowness?
Barely have we seen the light of this world, than the cord that connects us to the old one must be cut. No going back. We might look at our mother’s belly with nostalgia, but going back there is impossible.
Moving from one state to another is something that happens to us throughout our life as cords are cut.
Because we can be oversensitive or nostalgic, humans tend to try and hold on to the old while living the new. As if we were a bird dragging around its eggshell or a snake its old skin.
Half-finished things necessarily have consequences. Our hands, hearts and minds are occupied with the old and cannot concentrate a hundred percent on the new.
Marie Kondo, the queen of tidying up, preaches letting go. Thanking the old before putting it aside and creating the necessary space for what IS.
Feel like giving your present and your future all the room it needs?
Cutting the cord was vital when you were born. And it continues to be.
On an African safari, the photo hunter needs to see what is known as the BIG FIVE: the lion, the leopard, the rhinoceros, the buffalo and the elephant.
Once they have them on film, they can go home with their Holy Grail.
John Strelecky uses this analogy in his book “The Big FIVE for life”: what are the five things that you would like to have accomplished before you leave this world?
This isn’t about what we call a bucket list, in other words all the things you want to DO before you die, but more about our achievements.
Achievements like having raised our children as responsible adults. Having brought humour to those around us. Having contributed to a cause. Or simply having travelled the world.
We are so busy reacting to daily stimuli that we are often in reaction mode to what life throws at us.
Feel like reversing the trend and thinking about your “BIG FIVE for life”?
Do you like receiving gifts? Knowing that someone has thought of you? That someone has taken the trouble to wrap up the object and takes pleasure in giving it to you?
Gifts say as much about the person that gives them as the person that receives them. Often, we give what we would like to receive.
Someone who likes books tends to give them as gifts. Someone who likes giving flowers will have a bouquet hidden behind their back when they ring your doorbell. Someone who likes sweet nothings and beautifully written phrases will write you a lovely poetic note.
That someone becomes like an open book to us. They are telling you what moves them. What they have on their mind or simply what they enjoy.
Feel like pleasing someone? Simply remember what they have told you about themselves through their words, their gifts and their compliments.
Would you really like to please someone? Listen to them.
Fields of lavender stretching out before our eyes. That very specific colour somewhere between blue and violet. Rows of plants firmly anchored in the dry soil that follows the contours of the landscape. Their flowers swaying in the breeze all around. The chirping of cicadas in the background… And then there’s that smell. The instantly recognisable fragrance that tickles our nostrils and leaves an infinitesimal trace on our tongue. The sun high overhead warms the skin and makes us screw up our eyes.
Immersing ourselves into this canvas, we have used all our senses. Sight, smell, hearing, touch, taste but, most of all, we have savoured the atmosphere. Entering this landscape has produced sensations in our body. And these sensations take us on a journey and, more importantly, last beyond the present moment.
What if we called on our five senses for all the important moments in our life? They are active and ready to be used. But we are unaware of them. Every experience becomes an atmosphere – and a sensory canvas – to hang in the museum of our life.
Feel like becoming the curator of your own museum?