Do you remember the music in the film ‘Titanic’? It added a lot to the atmosphere of the film.
If you replaced it with ‘The Birdie Song’ the feelings evoked would certainly be very different.
So why don’t you give some thought to your tune for the summer?
You might be going on holiday, seeing your children, travelling, or just having a rest.
What will your tune be this summer? A cheerful, zen, upbeat or catchy one?
The film of your summer will take place whatever happens and whatever you do, but you it’s up to you to choose your soundtrack.
Enjoy your holiday and I look forward to seeing you in September.
Working from home has led to all sorts of things. The manager no longer meets their team and manages everyone from a distance, without ever being able to have a coffee together and see what is really going on.
We no longer pass each other in corridors and we can no longer observe each other in strategy meetings.
Now, the role of management is limited to facts. The factual manager has appeared. “I’ll give you your objectives and I expect the results on Monday.” He can’t see his colleague struggling, juggling his children and his phone calls. He is not inclined to empathy because the emotional dimension has disappeared behind a screen.
How are you coping with this new style of leadership? What about the human aspect of business relationships?
What about you? Do you have a desire to complement the facts by the whole panoply of emotions, illustrating your most insightful intuitions?
A little video on the Internet shows a father introducing his new baby to the family dog. The dog lies straight down on his back, exposing his belly, the most fragile part of him, to show he won’t cause the new baby any harm.
When two dogs are fighting and one of them realises he’s not going to win, he behaves in the same way as a sign of capitulation and the other dog immediately moves away and stops fighting.
Most of the people I help are aware of this crucial time when you ‘reveal your belly’.
David Allen interpreted this brilliantly: “Puppies and babies are the most vulnerable creatures … and that’s exactly why you want to protect them!”
No normal person would want to harm a baby or a puppy. On the contrary, when you reveal your symbolic belly, a type of protection that is almost impenetrable is immediately established.
What about you? Which belly could you reveal so that a form of protection could be established?
“Walter, my fifteen-year-old son, plays hockey and he was not at all happy with his position in rear defence. He was convinced he was an excellent midfielder, a position from which he could create the attack.
I suggested he write to his trainers to share his ideas instead of keeping his frustrations to himself and letting them build up.
I nearly fell off my chair when my son asked me to read his rough copy. He told me he had used the DESC model (Description – Effect – Solution – Conclusion) that I had explained to him after a management course last year – and he had applied it perfectly!
His trainers thanked him for his frankness, assured him he had talent and began to bring him forward on the field!”
Like Malcolm, we often think that what we share with our teenagers has no effect on them but the reality is that they just need a reason to apply it.
What about you? Have you seen your children use the tools you passed on to them?
Nathalie shared her hamster story during a Facebook live stream: sitting at her desk, concentrating hard, she is thinking of names for the various sections of a training course, but nothing inspires her. She perseveres. Her mental hamster wheel is overheating with exhortations: “I’ve got to find something! Come on! This is ridiculous! It should be so easy!”
Her wheel continues to squeak round even when she’s on the phone, leading to scribbles on scraps of paper and a certain loss of active listening.
She goes to bed, more than a little frustrated. The next day, sitting comfortably at her desk, she opens the file and BOOM! The section headings spring to mind.
We all know when our hamster wheel is turning, we can’t hear what our intuition is trying to tell us. Some people go off and do some sport, others meditate, do some cooking or have a nap. All these activities serve the same purpose: they calm down the hamster and make room for your intuition. Or to use Nathalie’s words: to download the answer to your question!
What about you? How do you deal with your hamster?