We hide behind very opaque masks. I’m not talking about anti-COVID masks but the attentive spouse, omnipresent manager, loving mother, docile daughter ones.
These masks protect us from others but they make who we really are disappear.
A facade or a refuge. And we take refuge behind our facades. But are our facades likeable?
What if 2021 was the year of transparency?
The year when our masks drop and we relate to others on a different level? A level where we are likeable and we know how to like others?
A little video on the Internet shows a father introducing his new baby to the family dog. The dog lies straight down on his back, exposing his belly, the most fragile part of him, to show he won’t cause the new baby any harm.
When two dogs are fighting and one of them realises he’s not going to win, he behaves in the same way as a sign of capitulation and the other dog immediately moves away and stops fighting.
Most of the people I help are aware of this crucial time when you ‘reveal your belly’.
David Allen interpreted this brilliantly: “Puppies and babies are the most vulnerable creatures … and that’s exactly why you want to protect them!”
No normal person would want to harm a baby or a puppy. On the contrary, when you reveal your symbolic belly, a type of protection that is almost impenetrable is immediately established.
What about you? Which belly could you reveal so that a form of protection could be established?
I recently had the pleasure of trying out Horse Coaching, which is a bit like being a horse whisperer (female version!). Although I’m already a horse rider, I didn’t really know quite what to expect.
Basically, without giving too much away for those who might want to give it a go: if you’re irritated, your horse will be too. If you are unsure of what you’re asking your horse, he will be too. If you know exactly what you want, your horse will follow you.
Horses actually amplify and shine a light on what you believe inside.
But you don’t need a four-legged friend to do the job for you: go out for a run when you feel irritated! It’s highly likely that you’ll feel much more cheerful after the first mile or two. during the first few miles your heart will be racing.
Amplifiers are everywhere in our lives: family, sports, animals, even our work colleagues. How do you measure where you are in life?