The participants in my trainings are often far too quick to be critical of themselves. For some reason they seem much better at seeing what is wrong with themselves than what is right. And this in spite of the fact that they are clearly experts in their own domains.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It seems to be a default setting in adults. We have a tendency to put our focus on what\u2019s wrong\/what\u2019s missing instead of what is working well. Instead of congratulating our kids for the A they got in French, we are all over them because of the C in math. That might be helpful if you know that your kid will definitely build his career on being a maths whizz, but you can\u2019t know that. And anyway, just as you wouldn\u2019t chose to be a baker if you are allergic to flour, or to be a jockey if you are afraid of horses, your child who is not drawn to math will likely do something that doesn\u2019t require that talent!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When we build on our talents we build on strength. That\u2019s part of why I force myself to tell the people I meet why I admire them. Their talents, small and big, conscious or unconscious, ephemeral or permanent are the cornerstone of what they can do and be in their lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If they know what they are good, talented or even a genius at they can make it a lever to build their careers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2018And what about my defects?\u2019, you might ask? Well, they\u2019ll quite simply be drowned by your talents. Focusing on your weaknesses sounds smart, but it\u2019s a mug\u2019s game.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And you? Who in your network needs to know about their own strengths so that they can build on them?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
The participants in my trainings are often far too quick to be critical of themselves. For some reason they seem much better at seeing what is wrong with themselves than what is right. And this in spite of the fact that they are clearly experts in their own domains. It seems to be a default setting in adults. We have a tendency to put our focus on what\u2019s wrong\/what\u2019s missing instead of what is working well. Instead of congratulating our kids for the A they got in French, we are all over them because of the C in math. That might be helpful if you know that your kid will definitely build his career on being a maths whizz, but you can\u2019t know that. And anyway, just as you wouldn\u2019t chose to be a baker if you are allergic to flour, or to be a jockey if you are afraid of horses, your child who is not drawn to math will likely do something that doesn\u2019t require that talent! When we build on our talents we build on strength. That\u2019s part of why I force myself to tell the people I meet why I admire them. Their talents, small and big, conscious or unconscious, ephemeral or permanent are the cornerstone of what they can do and be in their lives. If they know what they are good, talented or even a genius at they can make it a lever to build their careers. \u2018And what about my defects?\u2019, you might ask? Well, they\u2019ll quite simply be drowned by your talents. Focusing on your weaknesses sounds smart, but it\u2019s a mug\u2019s game. And you? Who in your network needs to know about their own strengths so that they can build on them?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[2289],"tags":[2383,2384,2385,2387,2386],"yoast_head":"\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\t\n