Tag: fear


The spider sits on my bedroom wall, motionless and threatening. I catch sight of it and scream. It’s enormous with long, hairy legs.

My friend is barely braver than I am. She holds out the vacuum cleaner tube and I watch with horror, and growing relief, as the monster disappears.
Will I have to leave the vacuum cleaner on all night?

This isn’t a dream, and there was a time when my reaction was much worse. In the past, I used to feel an uncontrollable urge to call the fire brigade out or to move out of the house entirely and only come back a long time after the crime scene had been cleaned up.

Since then, a hypnotherapist who specialises in such cases has helped me to get rid of most of my uncontrollable reactions.
I wonder why I didn’t seek help sooner, given the discomfort I systematically felt.

What about you? What unhealthy situation are you experiencing that would be worth taking steps to resolve?

Keeping a low profile


“1 m 80 [5’9″]?”  said the person I was talking to, somewhat taken aback. Well, yes actually, I am every single one of those centimetres. But the thing is, I have spent my entire life compacting them by tilting my hip to one side, hanging my head or stooping to make myself appear the same height as my shorter compatriots.

I used to make myself physically and metaphorically smaller: “I didn’t go to university”, “I’m blonde”, “I haven’t got a witty reply to everything”, or “I don’t understand anything” are all things I’ve heard myself saying all my life.

Nelson Mandela was right when he said: Our deepest fear is not that we are weak. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

For my 50th birthday, I bought myself my nth pair of high-heeled shoes, because women in high heels always look like someone to be reckoned with.  I also enrolled on a Master’s degree, because it’s never too late to learn, but the main gift I gave myself was permission to say that I’m clever, that I’m bubbling over with enthusiasm and full of common sense, and most of all, that I’ve got a talent for inspiring others!

Is that big-headed of me?  Perhaps.  But it’s a much more effective springboard than always starting off by saying that I’m useless!

What about you? What inner light would you like to shine out so that you can change the world in 2018?

Might as well do what you enjoy

The actor Jim Carey explained to a group of American university students that our choices are always motivated by either fear or love.

His father wanted to be an actor but was afraid that he wouldn’t make a living from it, so he became an accountant and was made redundant after a few years.

Even the choices that we make out of fear have an element of risk. So we might as well choose to do something we enjoy. At least we will have a good time doing it!

What about you? Are you doing what you enjoy or are you listening to your fears?